The Legacy of Love: A Valentine’s Day Reflection

Long ago, in the 3rd century, a Roman priest named Valentine defied an imperial decree and secretly married Christian couples in love. For this act of devotion, he was imprisoned and later executed on February 14th. But before his death, legend says he performed a final act of love—healing his jailer’s blind daughter and leaving her a note signed, “from your Valentine.” Centuries later, his story still inspires the day we dedicate to love.

Valentine’s Day isn’t just about gifts and grand gestures—it’s about choosing love every day. This year, instead of asking “What has my spouse done for me?”, try asking “What makes my spouse happy?” Take a moment to list those things, and if needed, set reminders to make them happen. Love isn’t about keeping score; it’s about giving selflessly, just as Valentine did.

Too often, we get caught in the cycle of waiting—waiting for our spouse to make us happy, to meet our needs, to make the first move. But love thrives when we shift our focus from receiving to giving. If you only give when you feel fulfilled, your marriage will stagnate. And if you only receive without giving, love will fade. The happiest couples are the ones who give generously, without keeping count.

Remember that hit song from 1993? “I would do anything for love, but I won’t do that.” But why not? If it’s within reason, do that! Make the coffee, hold their hand, write a love note, listen without distractions—whatever it is that brings them joy. Love isn’t about what’s fair; it’s about what’s faithful.

This Valentine’s Day, honor Saint Valentine’s legacy by choosing to love—intentionally, selflessly, and without hesitation. Because in the end, the strongest relationships aren’t built on what we get, but on what we give.